(DAY 8) PATIENCE

Patience is apart of Imaaan, and with Imaan, there is jannah.

This is a topic close to my heart, because of all the virtues in the world, patience is the one I horrendously lacked in. Astaghfirullah.. Perhaps this is a personality trait, or my weak point so easily invaded by the nasty syaitans.. God is the All-Knower- but I am sure, aside from myself, there are many more out there who are struggling with their own fired up angry emotions.

"O ye who believe! Let not a folk deride a folk who may be better than they (are), nor let women (deride) women who may be better than they are; neither defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. Bad is the name of lewdness after faith. And whoso turneth not in repentance, such are evil doers." (Al-Hujurat)

We are not allowed to insult, belittle, or curse others. Several hadiths from various sources go on to say that the Prophet (PBUH) reported that it is our unguarded mouths which will lead us to Hell. In other words, the words we say will lead us to sin and, consequently, punishment. Words said in anger will definitely be among those!

The Prophet (PBUH) frequently advised his followers to refrain from anger. He would often say that the best among men are the ones who treat their wives and families the best and those who control their anger.

Unfortunately, we live in a high-strung world, and it is unrealistic to think that things will always go as planned or that people will always act in ways that please us. People are bound to upset us sometimes. Be it your family, friends, spouse, or even yourself!

Yeay, Islam is the way of life, hence, the followings are guides on how to deal with anger when it's creeping into u and me!

1.to sit down or lie down at the onset of anger, which will help slowing doen breathing and the heart rate and should lead to calmer feelings. We can use this 'time-out' to step away from the situation and explore your options. hopefully, we will be able to respond appropriately to the heated situation.

2.Next step if the above doesnt work, we should make wudu. Make a dua, saying, "Oh, Allah. I seek refuge from the accursed Syaitan." Ask for Allah's forgiveness for your anger, anything you did to contribute to the confrontation, and anything you did or said in anger. Then, pray two rakahs.

3. We can also try to find peace and patience in reading the Quran. By reading Allah's words.

Hopefully, instead of adding sins, we are creating good deeds for ourselves, alhamdulillah.

With calmness and patientce, we can look at the issue in a new and more constructive light. We might find it is really a nonissue, and doesn't require a reaction at all. Or, we might even find that it does need to be dealt with.

Insya Allah, from today onwards, we will try to store calmness and patience in every situation we are faced with.

Til then, no more wrinkles nor tears of anger!