Patience is apart of Imaaan, and with Imaan, there is jannah.
This is a topic close to my heart, because of all the virtues in the world, patience is the one I horrendously lacked in. Astaghfirullah.. Perhaps this is a personality trait, or my weak point so easily invaded by the nasty syaitans.. God is the All-Knower- but I am sure, aside from myself, there are many more out there who are struggling with their own fired up angry emotions.
"O ye who believe! Let not a folk deride a folk who may be better than they (are), nor let women (deride) women who may be better than they are; neither defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. Bad is the name of lewdness after faith. And whoso turneth not in repentance, such are evil doers." (Al-Hujurat)
We are not allowed to insult, belittle, or curse others. Several hadiths from various sources go on to say that the Prophet (PBUH) reported that it is our unguarded mouths which will lead us to Hell. In other words, the words we say will lead us to sin and, consequently, punishment. Words said in anger will definitely be among those!
The Prophet (PBUH) frequently advised his followers to refrain from anger. He would often say that the best among men are the ones who treat their wives and families the best and those who control their anger.
Unfortunately, we live in a high-strung world, and it is unrealistic to think that things will always go as planned or that people will always act in ways that please us. People are bound to upset us sometimes. Be it your family, friends, spouse, or even yourself!
Yeay, Islam is the way of life, hence, the followings are guides on how to deal with anger when it's creeping into u and me!
1.to sit down or lie down at the onset of anger, which will help slowing doen breathing and the heart rate and should lead to calmer feelings. We can use this 'time-out' to step away from the situation and explore your options. hopefully, we will be able to respond appropriately to the heated situation.
2.Next step if the above doesnt work, we should make wudu. Make a dua, saying, "Oh, Allah. I seek refuge from the accursed Syaitan." Ask for Allah's forgiveness for your anger, anything you did to contribute to the confrontation, and anything you did or said in anger. Then, pray two rakahs.
3. We can also try to find peace and patience in reading the Quran. By reading Allah's words.
Hopefully, instead of adding sins, we are creating good deeds for ourselves, alhamdulillah.
With calmness and patientce, we can look at the issue in a new and more constructive light. We might find it is really a nonissue, and doesn't require a reaction at all. Or, we might even find that it does need to be dealt with.
Insya Allah, from today onwards, we will try to store calmness and patience in every situation we are faced with.
Til then, no more wrinkles nor tears of anger!
Wednesday 26 May 2010
Saturday 22 May 2010
give up? never! (DAY 6)
"It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer. ~Albert Einstein"
Have you ever given up on something, and years after that, you find yourself regretting that day u pushed the button 'stop'? Hands up for me :(. I have, and I know it's not the ways of Islam to dwell on the past, but, this story I am about to tell you is as a reminder to myself, and hopefully you too; THE IMPORTANCE OF NOT GIVING UP.
I was one of the best students in my French language class, until I decided to drop out of the class. We were the pioneer year in the school to be offered French lessons. It was free of charge, the teacher was absolutely wonderful, and it was taught in the comfort of my own classroom after school. (Triple 'duh!' for me). But I (stupidly) decided to leave the class at the end of the semester just because I found it was a struggle to juggle all the subjects I was learning, sports, and I was also trying to master Arabic (which was a compulsory subject).
Years later, I found myself lost at a busy street in Paris, France, and nobody around me can speak a single word of English! It's weird how fate brought us back to our good/bad/mediocre decisions that we made in our life..
So, morale of the stody is.. please please dont give up so easily. Struggle. Fight. Be it in our work, health, relationships..
Allah has promised
"Verily, with the hardship, there is relief (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs)." (Ash-Sharh)
Hence, do not give up. Try. Put our mind, body , heart, soul into whatever good things we are trying to achieve. Although the journey will be hard, and trying... There will be relief, as promised by Him, alhamdulillah..
Have you ever given up on something, and years after that, you find yourself regretting that day u pushed the button 'stop'? Hands up for me :(. I have, and I know it's not the ways of Islam to dwell on the past, but, this story I am about to tell you is as a reminder to myself, and hopefully you too; THE IMPORTANCE OF NOT GIVING UP.
I was one of the best students in my French language class, until I decided to drop out of the class. We were the pioneer year in the school to be offered French lessons. It was free of charge, the teacher was absolutely wonderful, and it was taught in the comfort of my own classroom after school. (Triple 'duh!' for me). But I (stupidly) decided to leave the class at the end of the semester just because I found it was a struggle to juggle all the subjects I was learning, sports, and I was also trying to master Arabic (which was a compulsory subject).
Years later, I found myself lost at a busy street in Paris, France, and nobody around me can speak a single word of English! It's weird how fate brought us back to our good/bad/mediocre decisions that we made in our life..
So, morale of the stody is.. please please dont give up so easily. Struggle. Fight. Be it in our work, health, relationships..
Allah has promised
"Verily, with the hardship, there is relief (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs)." (Ash-Sharh)
Hence, do not give up. Try. Put our mind, body , heart, soul into whatever good things we are trying to achieve. Although the journey will be hard, and trying... There will be relief, as promised by Him, alhamdulillah..
Friday 21 May 2010
(DAY 5) guarded verbally
Helo everyone! Hopefully the positive projects so far has brought all of you as much benefit as it has given me :D
But, I have to say. It has been exhausting too. :S
Hence, for today's lemonade of the day... Let's try NOT to do something. And.. the something is.. to NOT TALK ABOUT SOMEBODY ELSE.
"O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting) . And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful." (Alhujurat:12)
From today onwards, no more backbiting, scheming, conniving bad talks of another person. Let Allah be the judge on the Day of Judgement. Let us guard our mouths, and prevent ourselves from slipping into the hellfire :)
Til then, have a nice day talking less, and thinking more :)
Image from : http://keranacinta.files.wordpress.com/2009/04/ghibah.jpg
But, I have to say. It has been exhausting too. :S
Hence, for today's lemonade of the day... Let's try NOT to do something. And.. the something is.. to NOT TALK ABOUT SOMEBODY ELSE.
"O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting) . And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful." (Alhujurat:12)
From today onwards, no more backbiting, scheming, conniving bad talks of another person. Let Allah be the judge on the Day of Judgement. Let us guard our mouths, and prevent ourselves from slipping into the hellfire :)
Til then, have a nice day talking less, and thinking more :)
Image from : http://keranacinta.files.wordpress.com/2009/04/ghibah.jpg
Tuesday 18 May 2010
mind your mind (DAY 4)
I thought I should tell you an extremely silly thing that I have been doing for the last..God knows how many years.
I have been reciting the Holy Quran, without reading the translation. Oh, and i dont speak Arabic. So, you can imagine what a waste of time it has been (but, Ya Allah, I hope all of my past recitations have been counted as good deeds too, amiin) :)
And so, 6 months ago, I have bought a good 'tafsir' and has been, alhamdulillah, slowly trying to improve my knowledge of the Quran. To begin with (that was the time when I worked up to 10 hours aday non stop), I only managed to flip through the tafsir a few times a week. Sometimes one time a week. :(. what a shame, I have to admit. Wasting my younger years, my healthy state, NOT reading the Quran. Astaghfirullah.
And so, alhamduliilah, with the help of God, I have now slowly managed to read at least every other day, if not everyday. I do hope this will continue for the rest of my life. Be it a sentence a/day, with the interpretation of the 'ayat'.. I hope i can persevere this.
Its no fun seeing younger generations nowadays wasting their mind, by not challenging it. Not creating something new. Not enriching it with exciting knowledge!
Most of them much rather sit around lazying in front of the TV (back to my previous entry- this can also cause heart attack in the future, mind u ;) ) oh, and by watching the TV, it's ok if its educational mind stimulating channel, but, o well, we all know.
So, hopefully from today, we can start reading something, or learning something daily. Start pushing ourselves to conquer a new knowledge every single day. Let's start this project together, hopefully, by the end of this- we can become a wiser, more experience human being, amiin.
Secrets of success--> click here!
http://www.ted.com/talks/richard_st_john_s_8_secrets_of_success.html
til then, have a fun day! :D
I have been reciting the Holy Quran, without reading the translation. Oh, and i dont speak Arabic. So, you can imagine what a waste of time it has been (but, Ya Allah, I hope all of my past recitations have been counted as good deeds too, amiin) :)
And so, 6 months ago, I have bought a good 'tafsir' and has been, alhamdulillah, slowly trying to improve my knowledge of the Quran. To begin with (that was the time when I worked up to 10 hours aday non stop), I only managed to flip through the tafsir a few times a week. Sometimes one time a week. :(. what a shame, I have to admit. Wasting my younger years, my healthy state, NOT reading the Quran. Astaghfirullah.
And so, alhamduliilah, with the help of God, I have now slowly managed to read at least every other day, if not everyday. I do hope this will continue for the rest of my life. Be it a sentence a/day, with the interpretation of the 'ayat'.. I hope i can persevere this.
Its no fun seeing younger generations nowadays wasting their mind, by not challenging it. Not creating something new. Not enriching it with exciting knowledge!
Most of them much rather sit around lazying in front of the TV (back to my previous entry- this can also cause heart attack in the future, mind u ;) ) oh, and by watching the TV, it's ok if its educational mind stimulating channel, but, o well, we all know.
So, hopefully from today, we can start reading something, or learning something daily. Start pushing ourselves to conquer a new knowledge every single day. Let's start this project together, hopefully, by the end of this- we can become a wiser, more experience human being, amiin.
Secrets of success--> click here!
http://www.ted.com/talks/richard_st_john_s_8_secrets_of_success.html
til then, have a fun day! :D
Monday 17 May 2010
(no) sweat! (DAY 3)
I apologize for the long void in this blog over the weekend. I was babysitting my (oh-so-cute) niece, hence, have not been able to sit here and promote good deeds to you.
So, on this entry, I think we all should start breaking some sweats and exercise! I know God repeatedly reminded us to take good care and to not cause harm to ourselves. I am classifying being a couch potato, eating deep fried oil infested food everyday as doing ourselves harm, as shown by the recent increase in young adults having coronary heart disease, Diabetes, and stroke. I am blaming the box of time waster (TV)(or maybe now i should call it the 'a piece of plywood- since the emergence of flatscreens) that hypnotize people to glue their bums of the couch, fix their eyes on the box and add pounds to their bodies. GAINING FAT CUSHIONS ON THEIR BODY. By this it means not just the adipose layer under the skin. Also around the heart, liver, intestines- the ones unseen are causing long term damages to the body.
Hence, I am dragging myself (and hopefully others too :D) to shed the layers of unhealthy fats! I coincidentally read a very informative article in the newspaper yesterday written by a fellow doctor who recommended exercising as a wonderful hapy, healthy way of lifestyle. She promotes exercising AT LEAST 20 mins DAILY to increase the body temperature, gets the heart pumping faster and toxins out of our system. By increasing the body temp through exercising, a special enzyme is secreted to help digest the fats to make them into smaller better molecules which provides energy to the body, and not clog our arteries. Besides that, through exercising - it introduces the state of 'ketosis', whereby, ketones are produced from the digested fats (from our thigh, bums, stomach, etc). Ketone is a type of alcohol, which is naturally produced by the body, unlike the alcohol in beers, wines, etc, which can be harmful. This compound gives the person exercising a boost of happiness, joy, feeling fresh and rejuvenated. And, you will realize soon after getting into the habit of exercising daily that, NOT exercising for the day is a BIG LOSS. Of course it is!- NOT having the boost of happy ketones for the day! :D
Time after time, we are bombarded with the concept of having a balanced life: spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and PHYSICALLY. This is the time! :D lets do something about it!
I went on the treadmill for an hour of brisk walking in the morning, and a 30 mins aerobic session with my sister in the evening, and now I am feeling ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC! :D I hope you can join in the fun too ;)
Til then, have fun sweating off all the nasty toxins, and shedding the useless fats away ;) all the best!
Remember, Syaitan laknatullah will try their very best to stop us from doing good things to ourselves- hence, please dont be surprised when even with the good ketones and endorphines in the system, we will still feel lazy to exercise- thats them, the nasty syaitan, sitting on our laps, making them heavy to move, whispering discouragements. Hence, dear friends.. please do not fall into the nasty syaitans trap.
Have fun exercising! :D
So, on this entry, I think we all should start breaking some sweats and exercise! I know God repeatedly reminded us to take good care and to not cause harm to ourselves. I am classifying being a couch potato, eating deep fried oil infested food everyday as doing ourselves harm, as shown by the recent increase in young adults having coronary heart disease, Diabetes, and stroke. I am blaming the box of time waster (TV)(or maybe now i should call it the 'a piece of plywood- since the emergence of flatscreens) that hypnotize people to glue their bums of the couch, fix their eyes on the box and add pounds to their bodies. GAINING FAT CUSHIONS ON THEIR BODY. By this it means not just the adipose layer under the skin. Also around the heart, liver, intestines- the ones unseen are causing long term damages to the body.
Hence, I am dragging myself (and hopefully others too :D) to shed the layers of unhealthy fats! I coincidentally read a very informative article in the newspaper yesterday written by a fellow doctor who recommended exercising as a wonderful hapy, healthy way of lifestyle. She promotes exercising AT LEAST 20 mins DAILY to increase the body temperature, gets the heart pumping faster and toxins out of our system. By increasing the body temp through exercising, a special enzyme is secreted to help digest the fats to make them into smaller better molecules which provides energy to the body, and not clog our arteries. Besides that, through exercising - it introduces the state of 'ketosis', whereby, ketones are produced from the digested fats (from our thigh, bums, stomach, etc). Ketone is a type of alcohol, which is naturally produced by the body, unlike the alcohol in beers, wines, etc, which can be harmful. This compound gives the person exercising a boost of happiness, joy, feeling fresh and rejuvenated. And, you will realize soon after getting into the habit of exercising daily that, NOT exercising for the day is a BIG LOSS. Of course it is!- NOT having the boost of happy ketones for the day! :D
Time after time, we are bombarded with the concept of having a balanced life: spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and PHYSICALLY. This is the time! :D lets do something about it!
I went on the treadmill for an hour of brisk walking in the morning, and a 30 mins aerobic session with my sister in the evening, and now I am feeling ABSOLUTELY FANTASTIC! :D I hope you can join in the fun too ;)
Til then, have fun sweating off all the nasty toxins, and shedding the useless fats away ;) all the best!
Remember, Syaitan laknatullah will try their very best to stop us from doing good things to ourselves- hence, please dont be surprised when even with the good ketones and endorphines in the system, we will still feel lazy to exercise- thats them, the nasty syaitan, sitting on our laps, making them heavy to move, whispering discouragements. Hence, dear friends.. please do not fall into the nasty syaitans trap.
Have fun exercising! :D
Tuesday 11 May 2010
to clean or not to (too)clean? (DAY 2)
How was yesterdays little project? I hope everyone who tried managed to get pleasures in helping their mothers. I know I did ! :D
As a continuation on my endeavor to promote goodness (or whatever this blog brings to u) :P, I think we shall do something for ourselves and for the people who lives with us. Aside from shedding a few extra pounds from our (i hope not too wobbly :P) bodies, we can also immediately see the beautiful effect of today's little project, which is: LET'S CLEAN THE HOUSE! (hip hip hooray!) :D
I know its kinda a massive project, and perhaps too overly tiring to actually manually labour ourselves to clean THE WHOLE HOUSE (!) ( esp if you have a 7 bedroom house like me) :(. And so, u can choose which bit of the house u want to scrub out of dirt and dust first. We can do bit by bit everyday, so hopefully, by the end of the week, our houses will be spotlessly clean!
I know it is early days. Its only Day 2 of my a glass of lemonade a day project. But, I hope I will persists in continuously doing small good deeds in perseverance, with love, and honesty. In hope that all my hard works will be the things that will save me from Helfire, iAllah :)
"Allah loves those who make themselves clean and pure" (At taubah)
Til then, I am grabbing my earphones and gloves! Got some serious scrubbing to do ;)
a pearl of wisdom a day, keep the satan away
Helo everyone who is kind enough to blog hopped to my humble site :).
Shall I tell u a secret? I once created this blog out of anger and frustration of my exasperating job (as a junior doctor) to lash out my pent up emotions after work. I did not care if there were any readers or not, as long as I felt much better afterwards, it's fine. But, did i feel much better? Unfortunately, the answer is a BIG FAT NO! All the trashing just sucked every single (positive) energy left out of me (and after working a whole 10 hour shift, I did not have much energy to begin with anyways), I just felt awfully worse after blogging.
Hence, that is the reason why this blogged is called an outlet.
The good news is, I am now starting a new concept to kungfu fight my anger/frustration/etc deadly away. Which is.. (drumrolls)*grins*.. by writing about positive things and motivating others (and myself) to become a better person. A better healthier (body and soul)human being. And so, I hope by doing this, we will all moving towards a better life. And so, I've deleted all of my negative spiteful filled entries from before, and start A-FRESH!
I love blog hopping. Not many offers good positive vibes, and Lord knows we all need a dose of positivity and kindness everyday. Kinda like "pay it forward concept". I hope this blog will trigger the 'kind bone' in everyone to do something good to someone/something/anything that day. One simple good deed at a time :)But if you can do more, well done you!
Here it goes.. an extra good thing that I want to do to day is to do something for my mother to ease her chores for the day. My mom is the best person in the whole world, and I am sure, so are yours. :) Mothers to me are creatures created by God, to carry us for +/- 9 months in their belly, then take care of us from the time we know nothing of this world to whoever we are now, the person that turns our bad days around, and wipe our tears away. You can choose what good deed you want to do for your mother today- be it cooking, cleaning, kiss her cheeks, buy her food, massage her feet? call her to say you love her? or text msg?- u can choose.
But, lets do it today, and lets do it together! :) Because we'll never know when our mothers are taken away from us, or when will be our last day on this planet earth. I don't want to wake up tomorrow, regretting the fact that I wanted to say "I love you" to her, but i did not. I don't want this to haunt me, or you,for the rest of our lives..
For those of you who've lost her, do not feel like you are left out on todays little project :) You can offer your prayers for her. Truly, The AlMighty knows whats in your heart, and our life here is only a rent. We will iAllah meet with our family again one day, hopefully in the Gardens of Jannah :) amiin
til then, I've got a mom to please.. what about you ? ;)
Shall I tell u a secret? I once created this blog out of anger and frustration of my exasperating job (as a junior doctor) to lash out my pent up emotions after work. I did not care if there were any readers or not, as long as I felt much better afterwards, it's fine. But, did i feel much better? Unfortunately, the answer is a BIG FAT NO! All the trashing just sucked every single (positive) energy left out of me (and after working a whole 10 hour shift, I did not have much energy to begin with anyways), I just felt awfully worse after blogging.
Hence, that is the reason why this blogged is called an outlet.
The good news is, I am now starting a new concept to kungfu fight my anger/frustration/etc deadly away. Which is.. (drumrolls)*grins*.. by writing about positive things and motivating others (and myself) to become a better person. A better healthier (body and soul)human being. And so, I hope by doing this, we will all moving towards a better life. And so, I've deleted all of my negative spiteful filled entries from before, and start A-FRESH!
I love blog hopping. Not many offers good positive vibes, and Lord knows we all need a dose of positivity and kindness everyday. Kinda like "pay it forward concept". I hope this blog will trigger the 'kind bone' in everyone to do something good to someone/something/anything that day. One simple good deed at a time :)But if you can do more, well done you!
Here it goes.. an extra good thing that I want to do to day is to do something for my mother to ease her chores for the day. My mom is the best person in the whole world, and I am sure, so are yours. :) Mothers to me are creatures created by God, to carry us for +/- 9 months in their belly, then take care of us from the time we know nothing of this world to whoever we are now, the person that turns our bad days around, and wipe our tears away. You can choose what good deed you want to do for your mother today- be it cooking, cleaning, kiss her cheeks, buy her food, massage her feet? call her to say you love her? or text msg?- u can choose.
But, lets do it today, and lets do it together! :) Because we'll never know when our mothers are taken away from us, or when will be our last day on this planet earth. I don't want to wake up tomorrow, regretting the fact that I wanted to say "I love you" to her, but i did not. I don't want this to haunt me, or you,for the rest of our lives..
For those of you who've lost her, do not feel like you are left out on todays little project :) You can offer your prayers for her. Truly, The AlMighty knows whats in your heart, and our life here is only a rent. We will iAllah meet with our family again one day, hopefully in the Gardens of Jannah :) amiin
til then, I've got a mom to please.. what about you ? ;)
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